Post by Elijah Martin on Aug 13, 2022 14:15:01 GMT -5
It’s something most of us have dreamed of at one point or another: wanting to be someone else, or at least have the life someone else has. In this age of social media, it’s easier than ever to compare ourselves with other people who seem to be much better off.
Of course, we know that we only see a curated view of their lives, and yet we still can’t help but wish for something we don’t have. If you’ve been denying your true self for a while, it can be hard to start being yourself.
Here are four things to practice as you work on being your authentic self:
1. Accepting Your Flaws
We all have flaws. Sometimes we try to escape them by being someone else, but we can’t keep that up. No one is perfect. So, if you want to stop pretending to be someone else, the best place to start is by working on accepting the reality of who you are.
Of course, accepting your flaws doesn’t mean that you can’t work on them. Striving to be the best possible version of yourself is always a good goal, but it’s essential to retain your authenticity along the way.
If your flaws seem insurmountable, and you just don’t know how to be happy as yourself, remember that you’re not alone. No matter what you’re going through, there are people out there dealing with similar issues and finding a way through.
2. Loving Yourself
While validation from others feels great, accepting and loving yourself is the real key to finding happiness in your life. Having a solid support system in the form of friends and family is essential, but loving yourself will help you build and maintain those vital relationships.
A constant stream of self-criticism will wear you down. If you’re telling yourself that your only option is to pretend to be someone else, of course, you’ll criticize yourself when you can’t do that because none of us can. It’s time to change that story.
3. Practicing Self-Improvement
Once you’ve started to accept who you are, flaws and all, and love yourself for all you have to offer, you can start working on being the person you truly want to be.
When you’re uncertain of who you really are, you may end up pretending to be someone you’re not in the process of figuring that out. It may seem like a shortcut to model yourself off someone else, but you won’t be happy with the results unless you take the time to develop your own tastes and hobbies. You don’t have to become a carbon copy of someone else, but you can take inspiration from anywhere.
4. Keeping Your Own Counsel
If the people around you don’t support you when you’re being yourself, it’s easy to end up pretending to be someone else to try to obtain their approval. It’s only natural to feel disappointed when someone doesn’t like you for one reason or another.
But it’s important to remember that you can’t please everyone, and it’s up to you how much other people’s opinions affect you. While often the pressure to look or act a certain way comes from our own insecurities, it can also be outside pressure.
Societal expectations are placed on all of us, even from childhood, when certain colors, toys, and activities are for girls and others for boys. While some people might rebel against these roles immediately, others feel the pressure to conform. It can be even more challenging when this pressure comes from family or friends.
Above all else, if you’re escaping a problematic situation be kind to yourself and focus on accepting yourself for who you are, regardless of what others have said or done. Family and friends are essential, but they don’t honestly care about you if they don’t support you being yourself. One way to practice loving yourself is to surround yourself with people who will love you for being yourself.
If you’re not sure what it even means to be the real you, this might all seem impossible. But there’s good news: It’s not something you have to figure out all at once.
If you feel like you’re not living as your authentic self, you can begin to rediscover yourself bit by bit. As you learn to be more comfortable with being yourself, you’ll see so many benefits. You’ll discover what you love to do and your own personal sense of style. And you’ll know how to find fulfillment and happiness in your life.
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Jack Daniels - The Mad King, The Unsung Hero, The Era Ender… I mean how many fucking nicknames does a below average wrestler really need?! I did my research on this dude the last few days, and let me assure you… this jerkoff probably just Google searched “bad generic wrestler nicknames” and blindly chose three that he couldn’t choose between, before just saying FUCK IT and taking all of them. Just break it down quick: there is NOTHING psychotic about his behaviors that warrant being called The Mad King, he ain’t exactly Bruce Wayne so he sure as fuck ain’t any Unsung Hero, and finally The Era Ender… of what, the long lineage of legitimately GOOD wrestlers to come out of your country?!
But honestly, where are my manners? I should be more respectful and welcoming of the fresh meat walking into Action Wrestling right off the street. Allow me to introduce myself properly - my name is Elijah Martin, recent winner of Pure Cup 3 and future Action Wrestling Hall of Famer. However, don’t allow my confidence to fool you; I’m well aware that you’d look at my overall record and scratch your head a little bit about how I could make such a bold claim about being a future inductee of the Hall of Fame.
I view a lot of what has happened my first couple of months in A-Dub as a combination of fighting above my current pay grade, but I wouldn’t have it any other way, because how else is one supposed to improve if they don’t face those who are better talents on paper compared to yourself?! Just look at the last three matches I’ve had - lost to Kyle Kemp at the end of July on pay-per-view, then defeat John Black and Jonny Cedrone en route to winning Pure Cup, before turning around the following week to blow my second chance at qualifying for the All In match at Uprising with a loss to Sam Kidsgrove… shit happens, man!
Now I’ve taken a good hard look at Jack Daniels before his debut this Monday - the wrestler, not the whiskey - and well… yikes. If I were Kelly and Tzu Kage, I would consider disowning this poor sumbitch and ban the mention of his name ever again in your presence. This fool actually walks around talking about how he’s got thirty wins and only one loss is his career thus far as if that is a tremendous accomplishment, but conveniently leaves out that he’s been fighting a bunch of tomato cans who would wrestle even if the payoff was a hot dog and a handshake. This dude is still wet behind the ears, green as can be, with ZERO experience with LEGITIMATE wrestling talent… but we are supposed to believe that he’s gonna come in and become an immediate championship contender fresh off the boat?!
The only Irish export anybody gives a fuck about is Guinness, and it ain’t even that good except when you’re HAMMERED off better drinks on Saint Patrick’s Day… trust me, been there and done that! You aren’t going to just Irish Dance your way to victory around these parts, you are going to be taking on the best of the best, where it’s gonna take more than throwing some Irish potatoes in the faces of your opponents to get a pin fall or submission! You are going to somehow have to find the work ethic your ancestors from 200 years ago had when they left the motherland for the United States in hope of a brighter future.
Unfortunately, I can already tell you don’t have the balls to live up to those expectations, because you are relying on some flashy nicknames to cover up the fact you are nothing more than a shiny new toy that’s come to be destroyed and sent right off to The Land of Misfit Toys. In the end, you can put silk on a goat, but it’s still a goat… bet you didn’t know I got a few Irish proverbs in my back pocket huh?! Unlike me, you don’t belong here… and I’m gonna show that to you THE HARD WAY this Monday night on Clash!
So until then, Mister Daniels… let me grab this here out of my back pocket…
I pull out a bottle of Crown Royal to show the camera.
Time for me to have a drink from a REAL whiskey - sláinte!!
Of course, we know that we only see a curated view of their lives, and yet we still can’t help but wish for something we don’t have. If you’ve been denying your true self for a while, it can be hard to start being yourself.
Here are four things to practice as you work on being your authentic self:
1. Accepting Your Flaws
We all have flaws. Sometimes we try to escape them by being someone else, but we can’t keep that up. No one is perfect. So, if you want to stop pretending to be someone else, the best place to start is by working on accepting the reality of who you are.
Of course, accepting your flaws doesn’t mean that you can’t work on them. Striving to be the best possible version of yourself is always a good goal, but it’s essential to retain your authenticity along the way.
If your flaws seem insurmountable, and you just don’t know how to be happy as yourself, remember that you’re not alone. No matter what you’re going through, there are people out there dealing with similar issues and finding a way through.
2. Loving Yourself
While validation from others feels great, accepting and loving yourself is the real key to finding happiness in your life. Having a solid support system in the form of friends and family is essential, but loving yourself will help you build and maintain those vital relationships.
A constant stream of self-criticism will wear you down. If you’re telling yourself that your only option is to pretend to be someone else, of course, you’ll criticize yourself when you can’t do that because none of us can. It’s time to change that story.
3. Practicing Self-Improvement
Once you’ve started to accept who you are, flaws and all, and love yourself for all you have to offer, you can start working on being the person you truly want to be.
When you’re uncertain of who you really are, you may end up pretending to be someone you’re not in the process of figuring that out. It may seem like a shortcut to model yourself off someone else, but you won’t be happy with the results unless you take the time to develop your own tastes and hobbies. You don’t have to become a carbon copy of someone else, but you can take inspiration from anywhere.
4. Keeping Your Own Counsel
If the people around you don’t support you when you’re being yourself, it’s easy to end up pretending to be someone else to try to obtain their approval. It’s only natural to feel disappointed when someone doesn’t like you for one reason or another.
But it’s important to remember that you can’t please everyone, and it’s up to you how much other people’s opinions affect you. While often the pressure to look or act a certain way comes from our own insecurities, it can also be outside pressure.
Societal expectations are placed on all of us, even from childhood, when certain colors, toys, and activities are for girls and others for boys. While some people might rebel against these roles immediately, others feel the pressure to conform. It can be even more challenging when this pressure comes from family or friends.
Above all else, if you’re escaping a problematic situation be kind to yourself and focus on accepting yourself for who you are, regardless of what others have said or done. Family and friends are essential, but they don’t honestly care about you if they don’t support you being yourself. One way to practice loving yourself is to surround yourself with people who will love you for being yourself.
If you’re not sure what it even means to be the real you, this might all seem impossible. But there’s good news: It’s not something you have to figure out all at once.
If you feel like you’re not living as your authentic self, you can begin to rediscover yourself bit by bit. As you learn to be more comfortable with being yourself, you’ll see so many benefits. You’ll discover what you love to do and your own personal sense of style. And you’ll know how to find fulfillment and happiness in your life.
//////////////////////////////////////////////
Jack Daniels - The Mad King, The Unsung Hero, The Era Ender… I mean how many fucking nicknames does a below average wrestler really need?! I did my research on this dude the last few days, and let me assure you… this jerkoff probably just Google searched “bad generic wrestler nicknames” and blindly chose three that he couldn’t choose between, before just saying FUCK IT and taking all of them. Just break it down quick: there is NOTHING psychotic about his behaviors that warrant being called The Mad King, he ain’t exactly Bruce Wayne so he sure as fuck ain’t any Unsung Hero, and finally The Era Ender… of what, the long lineage of legitimately GOOD wrestlers to come out of your country?!
But honestly, where are my manners? I should be more respectful and welcoming of the fresh meat walking into Action Wrestling right off the street. Allow me to introduce myself properly - my name is Elijah Martin, recent winner of Pure Cup 3 and future Action Wrestling Hall of Famer. However, don’t allow my confidence to fool you; I’m well aware that you’d look at my overall record and scratch your head a little bit about how I could make such a bold claim about being a future inductee of the Hall of Fame.
I view a lot of what has happened my first couple of months in A-Dub as a combination of fighting above my current pay grade, but I wouldn’t have it any other way, because how else is one supposed to improve if they don’t face those who are better talents on paper compared to yourself?! Just look at the last three matches I’ve had - lost to Kyle Kemp at the end of July on pay-per-view, then defeat John Black and Jonny Cedrone en route to winning Pure Cup, before turning around the following week to blow my second chance at qualifying for the All In match at Uprising with a loss to Sam Kidsgrove… shit happens, man!
Now I’ve taken a good hard look at Jack Daniels before his debut this Monday - the wrestler, not the whiskey - and well… yikes. If I were Kelly and Tzu Kage, I would consider disowning this poor sumbitch and ban the mention of his name ever again in your presence. This fool actually walks around talking about how he’s got thirty wins and only one loss is his career thus far as if that is a tremendous accomplishment, but conveniently leaves out that he’s been fighting a bunch of tomato cans who would wrestle even if the payoff was a hot dog and a handshake. This dude is still wet behind the ears, green as can be, with ZERO experience with LEGITIMATE wrestling talent… but we are supposed to believe that he’s gonna come in and become an immediate championship contender fresh off the boat?!
The only Irish export anybody gives a fuck about is Guinness, and it ain’t even that good except when you’re HAMMERED off better drinks on Saint Patrick’s Day… trust me, been there and done that! You aren’t going to just Irish Dance your way to victory around these parts, you are going to be taking on the best of the best, where it’s gonna take more than throwing some Irish potatoes in the faces of your opponents to get a pin fall or submission! You are going to somehow have to find the work ethic your ancestors from 200 years ago had when they left the motherland for the United States in hope of a brighter future.
Unfortunately, I can already tell you don’t have the balls to live up to those expectations, because you are relying on some flashy nicknames to cover up the fact you are nothing more than a shiny new toy that’s come to be destroyed and sent right off to The Land of Misfit Toys. In the end, you can put silk on a goat, but it’s still a goat… bet you didn’t know I got a few Irish proverbs in my back pocket huh?! Unlike me, you don’t belong here… and I’m gonna show that to you THE HARD WAY this Monday night on Clash!
So until then, Mister Daniels… let me grab this here out of my back pocket…
I pull out a bottle of Crown Royal to show the camera.
Time for me to have a drink from a REAL whiskey - sláinte!!
